My son is in the 5th grade and for me as a mom it’s becoming a very emotional time. This is the last year there will be field trips and its cool to have your parents be chaperons. This is the last year there will be school parties and I get to attend. So when I was told about the Thanksgiving lunch, I knew I had to go and besides I do sometimes miss school lunches. My favorite school lunch used to be the morning pizza…. Yummm. Anyways.
I arrived 15 mins early which gave me plenty of time to find a parking space, sign in and wait. As I waited, I kept on thinking, “I am glad I decided to not be a teacher!” I really appreciate teachers and how they keep it all together. As the 5th graders walked down the hallway into the cafeteria, it became overwhelming just standing there. My son comes up to me and hugs me as he is super happy I came which yes made me feel really good inside to the point of tearing up. He guides me through the lunch line and then just leaves me there!!!! I walked into the lunchroom and immediately have 13-year-old me anxiety. Where am I going to sit?!? I look over to the right of me and see my son going back and forth with some kids. As I approach him, he lets me know that they are trying to figure out how to make everyone fit at the table and then commands the kids to scoot over and he made room for both me and his best friend. I will be honest, I felt kind of special.
Keeping an eye on my watch, as I had a meeting to attend, I dug right into the usual Thanksgiving lunch that consists of turkey, mashed potatoes drowning in gravy, green beans, salad and a roll. I kept on looking at my offspring, he is on his way to becoming a young adult. Someone who can formulate his own ideas, thoughts and has his own personality. My son is actually a really funny guy! He was making his friends laugh and I caught myself being proud and jealous of him. Gosh!! How I wish I could have been that cool at 10 years old. At that age, I was so awkward in my own body and didn’t have any confidence. He sits there and immediately commands your attention. There is a charm to him that draws you to him and you want him to be your friend. To my right sat 10-year-old me, a girl that giggled from the sidelines. If it wasn’t for the fact that it could come across as very weird, I wish I could have told her that it gets better and you do eventually grown into a more secure person.
But then I look right in front of me and there sits my son’s girlfriend. Yes, my 10 year old has a girlfriend and I’m good with it. That’s all I’m going to say… for now. This tiny little girl and her friend are looking at me and whispering. (Panic Mode) Immediately I start thinking, do I have food on my face? Is my lipstick all over the place? OMG why did I wear red lipstick?!? I’m a grown woman and I’m freaking out as to 2 little girls are talking about me. So I did what 10 year old Karen would have done, I looked down at my food and tried to not make any eye contact. I look over at my phone and see lunch is coming to an end. As we all start getting up and go to throw away our trash, this girl comes up to my son all shy.
Shy Girl: Hhhiiii…
My Son: Hey
Shy Girl: Do you think… that …well… maybe… if its okay… can I play with you at recess?
My Son: Yeah Whatever
I was watching this whole time and saw how her face just lit up because my son told her “Yeah Whatever”. I wanted to hug her and jump up and down with her, I don’t know. Being there in my son’s environment reminded me how hard it is growing up. Not all of us were magical beauties full of grace. Some of us were more like the character from My Big Fat Greek Wedding. Love that movie!!
From this mom to all the parents out there, make time to attend your kids school events. You only get a very limited amount of time. Besides, your taxes are paying for it.
One-fourth of state spending (on average) goes toward public education
Nine out of ten (enrolled school age children) attend public schools
More than half of state tax revenues fund education and health care
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Karen Guzman with JP and Associates REALTORS