This past weekend as I was doing the laundry, cooking and cleaning I realized how mean I really can be. Yes, I know it’s hard to think I can be mean. After a long day of taking care of my family and their needs, I usually get a Thank You and a kiss from my other half which I always follow it up with “Yeah you better be thankful. If you would have passed up on me you would be making your bed and meals as well as laundry.” He is always grateful and tells me that he would be lost without me. It’s nice knowing that you are appreciated and the other person knows how much you are worth. Of course, I do the same thing for him, I let him know how much he completes our lives. But no matter how good your life is going and how appreciated you are there are those times in which your mind ventures to think of how your life could have turned out if you would have made some different choices.
I hope I’m not the only one that torments herself thinking about all of my could’ve, should’ve and would’ve moments specially late at night. It’s funny how the brain just goes back to when you were in the 5th grade and accidentally pushed your friend too hard and they were seriously hurt (Hypothetical situation 😉). One of my biggest ones to date is actually the time that I let someone convince me that I couldn’t do something.
Several years ago, I was helping my family find a home. They were looking for something so specific but didn’t want to spend the money. It was very hard to work with them and they are my family!! (Love you guys!!) I found this home that met what they were looking for at half of their budget (HUD Home) BUT it needed to be completely gutted. They turned me down and told me NO!! I kept on insisting until they finally agreed to buy it and remodel it. This turned out great for them and are still very happy living at this home. That is not my regret though, my regret is that a year later I found myself getting divorced. I was having to rebuild my life with my son. My family was very supportive and they helped me through the process and let me live with them.
Once I was getting up on my feet, I started thinking about getting a place for my son and I. Something that was close to my family and work. After looking around, I found another HUD Home that was on the market for only $65k!! This cute 2-bedroom condo was close to the lake in a nice area. The only BUT was that it needed to be painted and needed new flooring which those things didn’t scare me one bit. In my mind I had a plan, I thought I could do the painting on my own and I knew a reasonable priced flooring guy that could do floors. The rest of the updates could be done a little bit at a time, you know weekend projects. I was so excited that I called my then boyfriend and told him all about it. His response was “You are over your head and that’s not a good idea.” He gave me all sorts of reasons as to why it was just a bad idea. It was upsetting hearing someone tell me that my plan was a bad one specially someone who I trusted. After a couple of weeks of thinking about it, the condo was put under contract. I convinced myself that it just wasn’t meant to be and I also gave myself 100 reasons why it was just a bad idea.
Recently when I was searching for homes in that area, I saw that it was just listed. When I saw the price, I was completely shocked and I thought, “Great another regret that will keep me up at night on a rough day.” This condo which a couple of years ago was selling for $65k is now going for $195k. In a matter of a couple of years, this home has appreciated $130,000!!! Now they probably put in a good $20k in upgrades but still that is a very good investment. If only I would have bought that condo!! That kind of appreciation is what homeowners wish for when they buy a home. Take it from me, if you are still thinking that it’s not a good time to buy you too will be having some regrets.
PS – If you are looking to move or relocate to the Dallas Area, let me help you find your new home. I promise to make your experience a wonderful one and I will entertain you with all of my stories. 😊
Karen Guzman with JP and Associates REALTORS